How To Become Attractively Intimidating. Here’s 18 Ways

Intimidating is often associated with negative connotations such as scary.

However, when used wisely and with a clear goal in mind, intimidation can be a psychological tool you can use to be respected and admired while being confident and attractive. 

Here are the 18 steps you can use to become attractively intimidating.

To become Powerfully Attractive:

1. Talk slowly and concisely.

Talking slowly allows you to choose your words before you speak. Thus, making you appear confident and authoritative.

Being comfortable with silence can also appear more powerful to others. 

People are often drawn to those they don’t understand. They always wonder what’s happening in your mind. 

And when you do speak, make sure your words carry weight because this is when others listen to you attentively. 

Do not sugarcoat anything and avoid stuttering or repeating yourself when you do talk.

2. Smile Less.

Believe it or not, smiling too much makes you appear like a soft and sensitive person. 

Make sure to smile using your eyes with a smirk. 

You also wanna delay your smile slightly after the other person. This conveys a sense of dominance and control.

3. Hold Strong Eye Contact.

Eye contact gives off a sense of assurance and assertiveness. 

Be sure to gaze at one of their eyeballs and try to see your reflection without breaking eye contact. 

This will make them nervous while you maintain power and lack of fear.

4. Look Forward When Walking.

You have to look ahead of you when you walk while maintaining a good posture. 

This will suggest to others that you have a clear direction about where you’re going and not easily distracted. 

You also want to walk slower and not jittery.

5. Never Reveal Your Weaknesses.

People will use your vulnerabilities against you and they will win. 

Don’t give them this power.

6. Have Powerful Energy.

You want to be yourself effortlessly without trying too hard. 

Be natural. 

You want your presence to be there, whether you’re listening or communicating. This projects strong energy and power.

7. Be Confident In Yourself.

Refrain from questioning what you do or say. Especially when you know your stuff. 

You also want to stand behind what you say.

8. Forget What Others Say About You.

Worrying about what others say about you wastes your energy and it will show that you’re based on external validation. Like you’re seeking approval from others.

People will always have something to say so it’s best to ignore them and keep going. It’s your journey. Not theirs.

9. Never Crave Attention.

First of all, it gives an immature impression. 

Rather than wanting attention from others, focus all that energy on building something that’ll lead you to success.

10. Pursue Goals Independently.

When you embark on journeys on your own, you showcase your determination and inner strengths. Suggesting that you’re capable of taking charge of your own life and making things happen. 

It also tells you that you know what you want without anyone making you go back and forth.

11. Don’t Tolerate Nonsense.

If someone makes a bad comment about you, look them in the eye and don’t say anything. Let your eyes do all the talking.

Also, don’t want to laugh at jokes that are not funny.

12. Set Boundaries.

Never let people walk all over you or cross the line and get away with it. 

When setting boundaries, whether it’s through cutting off people or removing yourself from a situation, do this without apologizing or seeking approval. 

If you struggle to say no, now’s the time.

13. Always Remain Calm.

It’s essentially effective in arguments. This leaves the other person feeling angrier and stupid while you’re calm and collected. 

This is a powerful response to any situation as it demonstrates emotional control and a strong demeanor.

14. Don’t Respond Immediately.

You need to wait a few seconds before you respond. This allows you to be careful with your words and give thoughtful responses without reacting impulsively. 

It tells the other person that you’re actively listening and processing what they’re saying before you chime in.

15. Be Well Groomed.

Be well groomed from head to toe and you will receive the amount of respect because it shows that you invest in your looks.

16. Do Not Be Sensitive.

Understand your triggers and work on reshaping negative thoughts and constructive criticism into more empowering perspectives. 

Forget external opinions and focus on your inner-self to build emotional strength.

17. Don’t Chase, Attract.

“If you spend your time chasing butterflies, they’ll fly away, but if you spend your time making a beautiful garden, the butterflies will come” – Mario Quintana

The quote is pretty straight forward. If you spend most of your time on meaningless desires, it often leads to frustration because you will not win. 

Instead, you want to boost foundation and purpose. 

In other words, focus on building yourself, whether it’s:

• Working on being better.

• Starting a business.

• Becoming THAT person you’ve always dreamed of. 

Even the girl or guy you’ve been wanting will come to you. Not the other way around.

18. Respect Others.

You receive what you give out. 

“What goes around comes around”.

Final Thoughts

Please keep in mind that there’s a big difference between being intimidating and just straight-up being disrespectful to yourself and others. 

Do not use this confidence to boost your ego or become rude to other people.

Remember that being intimidating is not about bullying others. Rather, it’s about reflecting a sense of self-assuredness and authority that commands respect while remaining approachable and genuine.

Thanks for sticking by.

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